Not struggling quite as much

[Jim1234]

........It can't be both ways!.....

.......By the way, I wanted to mention that I did check about a cheap phone for my daughter but they all had warnings on the boxes about cancer and reproductive harm. I didn't feel like I want my daughter handling something like that every day so I held off but I'll keep checking for alternatives. Thanks for the suggestion!

Well, they want it both ways, and it's up to us to tell them so. More on that in a moment.

Regarding cell phones, I think every cell phone has that warning. Every single one, including yours. There has been speculation, but no concrete correlative evidence. You might be worrying about something with an infinitely small chance of happening. Of course, I support whichever decision you make.

Regarding having it both ways, my soon to be ex mother in law had a bad traffic accident last year that was her fault, and injured a number of pedestrians. Her preliminary court date was yesterday, and it didn't go well at all. I just got a text from xW the charges were severe enough the prosecutor got the case moved to a higher court, where the penalties can be much harsher. My 88 year old stbxMIL is devastated, and xW is "in tears, really upset. Devastated."

I dearly love stbxMIL, but don't particularly feel like being very supportive of W. I don't know if it's better to remain NC, or respond with something like "Wow. That is terribly upsetting. Thanks for the update," or something a bit more supportive of stbxMIL.