Dealing with a WW and finding my happiness pt. 5

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I will try that thanks. I haven't had to do that over the last couple of days. I have made a point to be out and about in the house playing with S11 on his hoverboard or skateboard. From my wording it sounds like I am just in the MBR all the time. I am truly not. Yes sometimes I will go in there and read or do my homework because I started school and I need the solitude to get through my studies, but I am not just hiding in the MBR all day. I only retreat in there when she is being relentless about not leaving me alone. For the most part if she says something snide I ignore it or if she complains about something I validate.

I have closed the door on her three times so far and yes I worried about some BS accusation, but I have it on recording as I have cameras in my room now. I am not forceful, I just push until she gives and lets me shut the door.

I did try to just let her vent and get bored, but she doesn't. If she is heated and I leave the door open she will come in the room and stay in the room trying to force an argument. Thats only when she is really mad. And again this isnt every day, it has actually calmed down quite a bit. But it does happen frequently enough that its annoying. I have nothing to hide and I am all for communication.

WW cooked dinner the night before last and we ate at the table. WW has moved yet another spot so now she is on the opposite end as I am. I cracked a joke that she keeps moving further away and will end up eating on the stairs behind where she is sitting now eventually. The kids and WW thought it was funny.

I have to speak about something that my kids have started doing that bugs WW. I don't believe they are doing it intentionally and I have asked them to stop.

WW has a pretty poor relationship with her mom. Because of this my WW calls her mom "Mother" or by her first name. Ever since my WW has started acting like she has, D16 and S11 both now call her mother instead of mom. WW keeps telling the kids to stop. I reinforce and tell them to call her mom but I can't make them do anything.

So the kids have completely converted over to calling her mother now instead of mom and D16 calls her by her first name when they argue. This drives WW up the wall.

Any other suggestions on what to say when she approaches me with a "Why are you doing XXX?" with a really pissed off tone? Or if she throws a random accusation at me. WW is convinced that I am hiding something in my closet, to the point where she completely ignores the camera that is in my closet and digs through everything looking for whatever she thinks I am hiding. I have asked her why she keeps doing this but she just responds with "you know what you are doing!"

I truly feel that my WW has gone bat sh*t crazy. I am actually worried for her because her behavior is so erratic at times. WW has stopped drinking fortunately. WW told D16 that she realized she was drinking too much. WW was going out drinking with OM every single night they were together. They would drink quite a bit and I am sure the social lubricant helped her make her decision to stray from our MR.