So, I know it's been a while since I've made an update. Mostly because I finally detached completely, got an attorney, and fired back. I felt that I just needed to step back and do the GAL thing to the best of my ability.
W hadn't been talking much to me. When she does, it's about S. I don't give her much fuel, I keep my answers simple, on track, and I stand my ground. I don't get nearly as emotional these days about the impending D.
But something has changed. Last night, W started apologizing.
She started actually accepting accountability for some things.
My response was basically (paraphrased): "You can say anything. I only trust actions."
She asked "why are we spending thousands of dollars on this to fight in court?" My response: "Because you started a war."
She wants to talk again.
She even said she wants to do marriage counseling. She brought it up.
I don't trust it. I know it's a trap. Honestly, it sounds like my attorney set her attorney straight on a LOT of things.
I don't plan to talk about R at this point. But she seems to be starting to seriously understand that she has some issues that she needs to work on. Of course, she said "we" when she talked about working on them. I said "I'm fine. YOU need to handle your issues. WE have S to raise, whether we're together or not."
She's got a LONG way to go before I would ever consider R with her. But the more I've dropped her, moved on, and GAL, the more she's starting to see what she needs to work on.
My D is still going forward. I'm only going to be willing to consider R if I see a LOT of improvement. I don't have any hope left for going back.
But maybe I'll consider going forward in the future. Who knows.
