I’ll need to call that lawyer back. W wants answers, and she wants deadlines. She wants to get this going ASAP, because it will take 6-9 months through the courts.
Couple more things #foodforthought:
W told me last night that she was worried sick that while I was home on Christmas Break with the boys, that I would just up and take them from her and from the residence. I know, I know, don’t reason with them—but where would I go? She’s the one with family here in SoCal.
W has accused me of being so ‘fake’ the last couple weeks / couple months, as I’ve really tried the detaching / validating. (What has worked for validating is basically repeating the last thing she told me back to her as a question—I’ve found that helpful / constructive more so than anything, so will continue to do that.) She told me she absolutely hated what I’ve been doing / what I’ve become, and she always wondered if I had some sort of ‘smoking gun’ on her that I was going to spring on her and deploy.
