Betsey - Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, I can see it was something you were trying to avoid, and I'm touched you went ahead and wow, what a post.
It has made a big difference to how I see H's A. He and I both have been on a path for the past 20 years of being very task oriented, and I guess he saw the emotional need before I did.
I'm concerned that he does not seem to want to confront these needs, even to himself, he keeps saying there is/was NOTHING missing from our R, he just engaged with OW for the 'pleasure of her company'. But I do know that H and I are in for the long haul, and there will be a time when we will be able to discuss this openly.
In the meantime, I'm gonna just continue what is working. Thanks again, Betsey. You are an incredible person, and I'm honored to have you in my cyber-life. Big hug, Slowly
