Dealing with a WW and finding my happiness pt. 5

[SoTorn]

Hi Steve,

I am staying in the MBR. I am not moving until I am ready to go. WW argues with me about everything. Literally everything she says to me or asks me is brought to my attention with a tone of conflict.

I get stuff like:

"Why do you always stay in the MBR, what are you hiding from me?" and when I respond with the obvious response of "I am not hiding anything" she will retort with "yeah right, we know what you are doing, I know what you are doing, you are doing this because xxx". I honestly have no clue what she thinks I am doing.

Also, when I respond, I respond calmly and I ask her not to argue with me because its a waste of time. Instead she will just start to yell and repeat herself over and over again.

Its not all the time but its about every three times we interact. Every time she comes to my door she has some sort of issue with what I am doing. WW will bang on my door and start to scream at me because I lock the door to keep her from just walking in and she will literally just start yelling about the door being locked and won't have anything else to say.

On several occasions now, WW will start yelling at me for something/anything and will stand in my door after I open it and will not leave. I will ask her several times to please leave me alone and not argue with me and she will literally tell me “no”. I will tell her that she sounds angry and that I cannot speak with her when she is angry and to come back when she is calm and she will say “no”.

So I will repeat “Please leave me alone/leave my room” and she will say “no” over and over or say “this is my house I will walk where I want and come in when I want” and I will literally have to shut the door on her. WW will put her foot against the door to keep me from shutting it and I will have to keep pushing on it until her foot slides on the carpet and then she will stand at the door banging on the door and yelling my name. Then she always ends with “And you want me to think you have changed!?!?!”.

I am very confident that my WW is bi-polar because she will literally be super cheery and happy speaking with the kids and then one second later she will be following me around the house trying to start a screaming match with me and then one second after that she will be back to being cheery and happy with the kids. I have not argued/yelled/screamed back at all in months now. All I have done is calmly state that I will not argue or fight with her and asked her to leave me alone if she plans on trying to fight.

I am taking care of my responsibilities. I am home with the kids when I need to be, I clean my room and the house, I cook dinner, I make sure that my kids do their homework, I make sure that even though WW makes more than double what I make that I pay exactly 50% of the bills less her car, I make sure to reimburse her for half of the groceries etc. I am doing everything by the book. My biggest 180 is that I don’t fight. The dynamic in the past was that I would get drawn in and we would end up yelling at each other, mostly her calling me names, berating me and me defending myself.

I have literally asked her to leave me alone if she has nothing nice to say and she responds with “no”.