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The way I see it, there are always rules and there are exceptions.

The same rules of DB don't apply throughout all these processes. You don't do LRT during reconciliation.

Here is one example of why I think semantics get in the way. IMO, someone could say that you had a "covert contract" when you gave your W a year and didn't tell her. But, Covert Contracts are bad? I don't see it that way.
Relationships are complicated. Trying to oversimplify them with somatic terms sometimes misses important points.

What am I going to do in a month? Well, I'm going to follow what my "Divorce Remedy" book told me to do. Evaluate and adjust. In the meantime, I'm going to work my plan to let her digest my words. At some point, I plan to execute a "soft initiation". This is to make it easy, as initiation, especially at this juncture, may be beyond her ability.

If rejected. I will pull back. Reevaluate and adjust. At some point, I may get fed up and pull the plug.

Why did I tell her that I didn't want to stay in a no sex marriage? Because I don't. lol

Why didn't I give her a definite deadline? Because I didn't want to stop the conversation. Hope this helps others.