W will want an answer from me re: parenting plan soon, and I talked about that with L yesterday. The ‘doing some research’ line is something that L suggested.
How would this sound as a response? Please add suggestions or affirmations as necessary.
“I’ve been doing some research, and what I’ve found is that if you want to separate, then you are welcome to find your own place and begin that arrangement for yourself, and you are welcome to assist me in parenting duties while you are here. I feel that it is my best interest (and that of the kids’) for me to continue to be here.”
NGS says you have to have an answer. DBing says to punt. "All of this is a lot to consider. I will need some time to sort it all out in my head before I can answer you."
Take power back where you can. She wants an answer. The power is that you can provide that answer when YOU are ready, not when she demands it.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
