Brave Little Gerda, So Chilled She Could Not Speak

[Rita]

I got a doozy of an e-mail from him this morning, I guess my "evil" comment combined with Catholic friend's look of horror and shock in the courtroom really is bugging him. In the upside-down world of MLC, his guilt gives me a little hope for the "one day."

Job and DnJ, your support is immeasurably wonderful. I am rushing to work so I have to pore over everything later. I am just amazed that these people out somewhere in the world who don't even know me take so much time from their lives to help me. It's incredible. I am so very grateful to you and wish I could leave a box of my best chocolate chip cookies on each of your doorsteps.

I have a lot of questions for DnJ; your posts always make me realize that I am not seeing something that is standing in front of me but usually I still can't see whatever it is without a few more clarifications, so I will write again tonight or tomorrow.

Job, my husband is a joint owner on the account and can empty it any time he wants. He doesn't do so because somewhere in his addled brain he knows I am already struggling to pay the mortgages, debt and kids' care. This week there is currently $800 in our joint account and over $8000 in scheduled bills to go out on Friday. This is pretty typical for each month and I usually put 100% of my income in to cover the bills, while he puts in 0% of his income; but in January I don't get paid at all because it's in between semesters.

As far as giving him any money, my L has told me I must never ever give him any money ever again. It has been great actually to be able to tell him that boundary.

Love to you both, thank you!

(You can probably tell I am feeling a little better. I had an idea of a proposal for him but haven't hashed it out in my mind yet.)