Its amazingly similar how our sitches are at similar stages. I also have images of my H telling her that 'I will love you forever but this is reality..'
I have this idea of telling H that from my experience (well, H never expereinced a break up in a R before) he needs to do this short and sweet to allow OW to move on. The quickeer he breaks off he easier it is for OW to move on with her life. And the more he lingers and tells her how much he cares, or whatever, will only make her more confuse and on top of that I will be confuse as well. H told me that he needs OW to accept the break off. Well, my thoughts are as long as our WAS allow them to hang on, they will hang on and never let go.
That is just a thought that I have. Maybe good maybe bad. Have you ever tried something along those lines slowly? just a suggestion to give our WAS something to think about or not?
Betsey, appreciate your feedback on this.
Deb, we found another long lost sister here.
Take care slowly, I will look up to you for more strength..
Sometimes the very thing you're looking for is the one thing you can't see..
