I am mulling over what I want to do about custody. I am hearing that kids that are the same age as mine do better with more frequent hand-offs (every 2-3 days) so they are not apart from either parent for too long.
My brother did a 2-3-2 split with his ex. His kids were pretty young at the time. He absolutely hated it. The kids were basically living out of suitcases and backpacks because it felt like they were always on the move. Because the handoff days were always switching from week-to-week they were constantly confused about when the handoffs were. They had trouble keeping track of homework too, because it would often fall across handoffs.
My ex and I did a weekly split. We did handoffs on Sundays. We still do with S16 since he's in high school. But we both loved it, the kids loved it, it always worked very smoothly for us. Handoffs were always very leisurely since it was on Sunday, we were never real strict with each other on the time, would let it float if needed. Most homework doesn't span the weekends so we didn't have to talk a lot about it at handoffs, but sometimes if there was a big project then we could cover it then. I have to travel for work sometimes so it was easy to check my schedule and coordinate travel with the weeks I didn't have the kids. A week at a time is long enough for the kids to feel "settled" too.
Regarding your comment about not being apart from a parent for too long, my ex and I had that discussion and agreed to allow one evening visit per week by the other parent. IE, if I had the kids then my ex could come take them one evening for dinner, or visit with them at my house or whatever. We actually had that written into the D decree. In actual practice we didn't use it much because the kids were all in sports, band, cheer, color guard, etc. So we both ended up seeing them a lot during the week anyway.
That's just the personal experience of my brother and me, your situation may be different. Just something to think about.
