I think sandi is speaking in terms of a enforcement. Clarity in boundaries, and therefore ultimatum, is important.

IF THEN is fine, but make sure it is timebound, enforceable and that you are willing to following through.

If by FALL of 2019 our marriage is a SSM then:

I will talk to a lawyer, work out a separation agreement, and file for D.

While you gave the boundary, unless I misread it, it came out as a IF statement with no then. Essentially you said you don't want to remain in a SSM. That is completely fair. However, what follows that?

Last edited by Steve85; 01/16/19 01:27 PM.
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