Honestly you should haven't discussed anything with her. You were not DBing. You were feeding the beast. Once she started the BS blame shifting and trashing your character you should have walked away.

Community property means anything incurred while M will be split equitably. So yes, unless you elect to keep your debt the courts will split it between you.

Do nothing. Stop talking to her about anything. Dont help her figure anything out. Why help her leave you? Just step back and focus on yourself. Shes spinning in circles and you reached out and got pulled in.

You cannot reason with them. It's just not possible. Just stop focusing on her and stop talking to her about everything.

M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019