Slowly, I like the title of your thread--it captures what each of us are going thru. Every day brings us challenges to improve ourselves as persons. You sound like you're working hard at centering yourself, and are making progress.
I began meditation study several months ago, and believe that regular study and practice, keep me from drifting too far off center. Meditation helps me to practice and cultivate tranquility, not having to be in control of events, being compassionate towards my spouse, even though I don't understand all that she's going thru, being less self-centered, not needing everything in life to go my way, and being less reactive towards events and her.
I wasn't working on these skills prior to the separation. I realized that I needed to evolve into greater maturity as a person. I'm using the separation to become a better person. It sounds like you want to grow from your situation too.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
