After our Monday morning R talk and me saying that I didn't intend to stay in a sexless marriage indefinitely. Long day and bible study I come home just before bedtime. We catch up and all is pleasant like nothing ever happened. W asked if she could use my car for carpool in the morning because the usual SUV was out of gas. I agreed and went to bed. In the morning I get up as usual and make us both coffee. I stay in my MBR as W gets ready for her day. Usually, unless she has business to discuss she just yells up the stairs that she is leaving and to have a good day.
I have to admit that this morning I was contemplating saying something to the effect that "I guess we need to discuss how this is going to work." In new fashion, I decided not to.
So W comes up and in a sweeter than normal voice thanks me for the use of my car and compliments the ride. Says that she is going and appears to be temp taking me. I act normal.
What does this all mean? Who knows? At least I fell like I was heard and she may have thought about things. Most of the time I feel like stuff either hits her as good or bad and she just gets busy with tasks without spending any time contemplating much.
RR I think you are right, this is a temp-check. I know early on in my sitch, anytime I expressed and/or enforced a boundary. Or I got really good at detaching, my W would do things like this. Come up and say hi or goodbye and give me a kiss. Or start a discussion about something that was planning for the future. I think she started to think about what she was potentially losing and, at least, temporarily start doing and saying things to try to "fix" things.
You gave a boundary (no SSM), she sees that as you starting to look at moving on. She is going to do things to try to give you hope.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
