I am thinking about you. Stay strong, stay business-like.
I totally understand you feeling like a sheep being lead along.
With my involvement in separation, will updating, and divorce; I found there is so much behind the scenes stuff that the L looks after. They are professionals at what they do, and I didn’t need to be involved in all that, just the decision or direction, they look after all the details.
I distinctly remember a point when I just threw my hands in the air and just had to trust that my L knew what he was doing and believe what he was telling me. It was difficult, I did have some trust issues with everyone, so soon after bomb drop.
Gerda, you are an intelligent women. Listen to your lawyer’s advice and recommendations, know what it is you want and how much your willing to fight for it, know what your willing to let go of, and give your L the decision and direction you want to go. I know you’ve done this already.
The ground work has been laid, go to court and see what transpires. Then figure out where you go from there.
I know you are dreading court. This is a horrible reality of this situation you are in. Try to remain calm, you will get through this.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
