I am sorry that you are going through this but I do commend you for going to counseling for yourself and getting the DR book, I think you are showing that you can take charge. And that you were taking charge through a really difficult time I know what it’s like to be kicked when you were lying down. My husband told me he wanted a divorce when I was depressed over my son having to go away to boarding school after he had a suicide attempt. He never told me he was unhappy and kept it in so it was a real shock to me.
I really did not want to go to therapy but it’s been six months now since the DB and Since I started therapy and it has helped a lot I can see how far I have come, I didn’t think I would ever feel better and I still have a long way to go but it definitely helps. It sounds like you have been through a lot with moving in fertility treatments death of loved ones that is a heck of a lot so I know it sounds cliché but be kind to yourself and try to be as patient with yourself to heal as you can some days will be better than others but you will slowly be moving forward and one day you will look back and see how far you’ve come.
My husband agreed to go to marriage counseling with me but I think he did it out of guilt or to pretend like he wanted to work things out I just found out that he got an appointment to lease an apartment and had been pretending four months and never let me in on his plan. But that being said the marriage counseling sessions that we went to I think they were about six of them Were helpful to me and saying that a lot of this stuff that we were dealing with had a lot more to do with his issues than mine which was really validating and empowering. I think if you can try to get out with your girlfriends go see movies take walks hot baths listen to good music and just be good to yourself through this time you will get a lot of good advice on this board and there are a lot of people who know exactly what you’re going through so you won’t feel so alone.
