Wow, Honeypot - I think I lived your life!!! And to all you HD guys out there, I always wondered the same thing: How can he have a perfectly good hard one and let it go to waste???? Pick an excuse, any excuse (I wanted to have cards made up for this): too tired, have to wake up too early, too preoccupied, too stressed, too much on my (his) mind, not feeling well, or in the morning - feeling like I have had some sleep and don't want to waste my (his) energy, too much to do, need to get my sleep and don't want to take (i.e. waste) the time,.... it goes on and on and on and on..... but here's the ultimate: "ignore it and it will go away" AAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!
Anyway, HP - I really, really, can sympathize with you - I've been in that bed and in that life.
Also, to stay with the original posting about clitorises (is that how the plural is spelled??)