The point is you can't control him. So don't try. Your goal is to detach to the point where no matter what he says or does, it no longer effects you emotionally. Easier said than done. BUT, so freeing once you get there!!
Steve is very wise.
The only person you can control is you. You can control how you respond.
We can predict almost everything H is going to say or do. We can give you insight on how to respond.
He wants you to change. Change is what he is going to get.
The only person you can change is you. How hard is that going to be? It is magnitude easier than trying to change someone else. Focus on you and set him free.
One of the first things that you should do learn is projecting that you are happily moving on without him. Like you had an AH-HA moment.
This is the thought process: "I get it, I don't know why I didn't see it soon. I don't want to be with someone who does not want to be with me" You tell him in your actions, not in your words.
I wish you well though this process and I hope you save your marriage.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
