Building my best self and life with or without W

[Twofeet]

Did,

I am not a vet, but I want to comment and lend support. You share a kid you can't go NC. I get where a child is sick, hurt, etc you want to bend over backwards to help them. All you can do is do your best. In these sitchs there is just going to be times when the WS is not available and you have to deal with the fallout. This is your opportunity to learn to be a better nurturing parent. You are the father, but because of what it is, when D4 is with you then you are one parent. So you will have to learn to fill in for both roles. I fell like It will make you a better overall parent.

As far as you getting upset when D4 FT your WS, well maybe go and read the detachment thread again. Read about letting go more.... not just here, but read elsewhere. I am not an expert since I am just working through this myself. Once you get there from what I understand and am experiencing you can still feel the hurt and sadness, but you don't go into a tailspin of emotion. You don't ride the rollercoaster, you just watch it pass you by.