Totally new to this

[Ready2Change]

I'm going to bring it up again in therapy to see if he will say.

Please do not bring this up. He will not tell you the truth. Again, what you need to do is counter-intuitive.

He said he would give it some time and see what happens

You are plan B. Do you want to be plan B?

and if I change.

I hope you change. Going through this process was the best worse thing I have done. You have been given a gift if you choose to take it. You do not see it. The personal growth I have went through since finding this website has been amazing. You will come out of this process in a much better place.