Joe, you know I recently went through this. Are you guys still living together? I don't think you are.
If I were in your shoes, I would run and not look back. If I were D'd from my W and she came back she'd find that door closed. Do I love her? Yes. Immensely. But what I've found this past year was love for myself! I just told Manta, I am AMOAFWL. I am awesome. I know my own worth.
If you do R with her make hre do the work! Make her chase you. Make her agree to your boundaries. Otherwise, break the chain and don't look back!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018