Hi, bare with please. So married 13 years, together 15 years, 11 year old son. Went thru 2 moves together, one deployment, 2 miscarriages then secondary infertility and treatments. Dad died 2 years ago of cancer, then became full time caregiver for mother with alzheimers. She passed away 2 months ago and 6 weeks later as I was still mourning her my husband tells me he no longer sees a future together. He was close to my parents as well.
Seems I've changed and he found himself and we have no common interests any longer he says. We have agreed to counseling and have had a couple of sessions so far. He won't say I love you and told me he loves me but doesn't know if he is in love with me. Oh, and we booked a trip with our child during all this for the future. Best part is, he became good friends with my friend and I found them texting back and forth behind my back excessively. She also works for him and is married and we are all family friends.
I'm not speaking with her any longer, hurt by him bc the texts were deleted and felt he couldn't come talk to me but could to her and emotionally abandoned me when my mom passed. I do believe him when he says it's just a friendship bc I have male friends, however I shared my discussions with them with him. He is traveling now but texting me to see how my day is and keep me updated where he is and to such.
I am waiting for my copy of the Divorce Remedy to come in. In the meantime, during a one on one with our therapist he told me to get control back and he is the one who told me to get this book. Seems my husband thinks I should be stronger bc I am typically a strong woman. However, I feel he hit me at my lowest point and I feel beaten.
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