Typical adult/teenager behavior. He reminds me so much of another poster's husband. You may want to search for HaWho. She had a husband who lived in a "dorm room" in the house for a few years before he finally moved out. Her threads may help you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
