"Hi, WW. The kids are looking forward to being picked up by you today. Actually, I am not fine with you coming tuesday and wednesday, to be honest. Every second or third day, makes perfect sense according to the needs of our little ones. D4 cried and said she missed you after I asked her yesterday about a call with you (she was fine minutes later, and didn't talk about you after that, so dont worry, it is what it is). But the point is, the kids need stability and fixed habits in their daily lives. We can't provide that, if you or I turn up every day, and then are gone when they wake up. Its better if we stay to the agreement we made, because, then they will learn, and then know, what to expect from us in this new life they suddenly have to adapt to. I hope you understand what I am saying. But they are really looking forward to seeing you today.
Hurt I really don't even know what to say to you anymore.
In the first and last sentence you repeat yourself with more approval seeking behavior. In the middle you say D4 missed her and then go right into that she was fine and didn't want to talk to her. Then you try to guilt trip her.
I am really confused to what the arrangement is for the kids. Sounds like 7 days on and 7 days off but she can see them every couple days on her 7 days off and you can't see them at all on your 7 days off. WTF????? If you want what is best for them then start them on the schedule now of 7 days on and 7 days off. They are young they will get use to it. Stop letting her cake eat because you don't have the b@lls to tell her no. These are consequences of divorce/breakups.
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"No that does not work for me. In order for the kids to obtain structure in their lives it is not a good idea for you to show up on days they are with me."
If you think 7 days is too long then you have dinner at her place on the 4th day and she has dinner at your place on the 4th day of each of your alotted 7 days.
Please come to the board before sending texts of importance.
