I have a penis question, sorry Alex to infringe on your thread. I figured this was the best place to ask it..in the 'striving to understand genitals' thread.
This really should be directed to the LD guys (Dbrookie, I need you dude, even though you've changed, I still need your input~) but whoever wants to respond, I will take what I can get.
Here is the scenario. Last night I was horny to beat the band. H came to bed with me and snuggled up, spoon style. At first he had his genitals strategically placed so that they do not come in contact with...what else...the honeypot, lol. But then he maneuvered so that we were truly spooning. I thought I felt some erection action down there but wasn't going to do any grinding to find out for certain, lest I get a "I'm really tired" response. Within a minute or so, he was snoring. So I just let it go.
He wakes up 5 min later, hot and rolls on to his back. I was still on my side and reached my arm around and placed it on his stomach. I was laying there disappointed that there was no sex action when I realized that I hadn't done anything to make it happen (I usually don't..what is the point). So I reached down to touch him and he was ROCK hard. I mean, it was huge. I was surprised and asked him if he would like to make love. He said we might as well now that he was awake. So we did and it was good.
Here is my question though: Obviously he had gotten hard while we were snuggling. Now, can someone explain to me the physiology of a man's erection? That is...evidently a man can become hard and yet have NO desire to actually have sex. I understand that this happens with morning wood and all that, but I suppose I wasn't aware that it happened (erection without desire) while snuggled up to your wife's bare arse..?
Now for all of you who are thinking that he WAS aroused but just didn't want to say anything, I don't think that was the case. I could see and feel his desire arriving after I initiated. Prior to that, it was obviously just an erection from physical contact but with no desire or emotion behind it. What is this about? Is it normal?
Then when I touched him and mentioned sex, it was like the two things emerged into one right before my eyes--the erection and the desire were both there and integrated. I don't know if this is making sense but it was really weird! I wanted to ask him about this, but it was NOT the right time, lol.
Are men just so used to being hard that an erection, in and of itself, is not enough to bring the desire around? And why would he get hard from our genitals being snuggled together and then not want to take it further? (this one is for you DB, in particular)
I found the whole episode confusing and I actually had the conscious thought while we were making love: "This man brings UP more questions than he answers."
Oh, one more question: Is it possible and probable that a man can be turned on (hence the erection) but not turned on ENOUGH to make sex an option that he wants to pursue? That is what I am leaning towards. The erection was there, but until I took the bull by the horns and indicated MY desire, it was not enough to make him want to pursue it.
