DjvYes I remember reading a bunch of people on this board saying that it was actually easier for them to detach once their spouse had moved out............I just feel like he gave me false hope by telling me he would go to marriage counseling with me and that he wasn’t doing it on false pretense is. We didn’t even finish our counseling and he got a place so that supposed to me he really wasn’t into saving the relationship.I can’t believe it’s been six months and in some ways I have to start the grieving process all over but I will say I am much less of a rack than I was when he first dbombed me back in July. My heart of hearts tells me a few different things one is that he is depressed and has issues the other is that he really doesn’t want to be married anymore or at least wants to be alone. But I am going to detach Like a beast I know it is going to kill me some days even tonight going to bed in our giant king size bed is going to be hard. I have a therapy appointment scheduled for tomorrow and then on Tuesday I’m supposed to meet with the marriage counselor this was the day he was going to tell me about my husband’s apartment.
So I guess my question is what if the therapist thinks we should still stay in marriage counseling even though my husband moved out I feel like if he’s moved out that is a huge sign that he’s not interested in keeping the relationship together and that’s why should we go to counseling. I’m going to ask the therapist to level with me and tell me if he thinks I need to MoveOn I’m sure he seen tons of husbands like mine who he can tell from a handful of visits are just going through the motions with therapy. DJV What would you say to the therapist if you were in my position, would you keep going to therapy if your husband wanted to? Or do you think I am just in need of letting him fully go?I just really don’t want to give myself a false hope I’m afraid of the answer I will get on Tuesday,But the quicker I can except it the quicker I can heal and move forward.
I know that you have come along way I can tell by your post I know you still have some hard days but you son more positive and have more clarity about your situation and are at more at peace with it then you were. And someways you r lucky because have your children where as my son is away and now my husband has moved out and I’m all alone and it’s surreal to say the least.
