Sansa... so sorry to hear this. It is the worst when you find things like this out without your H talking to you first. It is so disrespectful and cowardly. I see that you wrote this two hours ago so I’m probably too late to offer advice. When things like this happen, I think it is important to try to take a step back, breathe and let him do most of the talking. It is not a time to plead your case or lecture him about his poor choices (I, unfortunately did this and it was very unhelpful). You need to accept this is how he feels in the moment and DB your a$$ off... for you. Remember...nothing happens immediately. This takes time and time is your friend. You will not feel this bad two weeks from now. (((HUGS)))
