Honestly, I don’t think she’s trying to manipulate you either.
I don’t think she wishes you harm, I think she might actually want you to be happy.
She wanted out and she got it. I don’t think she ever wanted to directly hurt you. Her affair was not right, if she wanted out, she should have gotten out first, then began dating. But I think she just wants to be happy, but doesn’t want you to be miserable. There are spouses on here who got out had the A and still feel the need to make the LBS miserable. I don’t think your ex falls in that category.
Your best road to healing ? Just live your life. Make changes you want for yourself and the rest will fall into place.
