I am so sorry. I don't understand how this could have happened, but please try to stay strong and positive. Just because your she got the parental rights now doesn't mean that she is going to want the all of the children 24/7 every day. She's going to find out that having them is a full time job and there is no rest for the weary.
Hopefully when things settle down and euphoria of winning this case wears off, she will "soften" and allow you more time with the children.
Stay positive and above all else stay strong. She may have won this round, but you can always fight for the 50/50 again.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yes that's what therapist have said. W is all about hurting You. The moment W sees you not hurting she'll find something Else.
One day at a time
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Lawyer even said for me to hire another lawyer Because her hands are tied with this case.
Like really now you tell me... I am trying to sink all This in
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I’m utterly speechless at reading this..I’m heartbroken for you. I agree with Job that the euphoria will wear off, sooner rather than later. Stay strong.
I have a D and S and believe me that when your D reaches puberty the following few years will be very trying. Life won’t be very pretty for W and OW then.
In a couple of years they will be old enough to chose where they want to live. I won’t be at all surprised if all three come back to you. Just remember to never bad mouth W and OW to them, they will make their own minds up.
Here I am just got a email, my lawyer has took Herself out and this case became to much.
Ex lawyer said to hire another lawyer as she has Tried everything.
I explained to her I can't imagine but this GAL unfortunately Has sided with W. I have never trusted this GAL for many reasons. Gal and W where to friendly and anything I said or Did got twisted. Example me contacting GAL When GAL wanted to know how the holidays went Gal made it seem to my lawyer I am always Sabotaging W relationships with the kids.
Also Gal has made some false notes from kids Therapist in GAL notes she says S10 therapist is All trio's therapy in fact this is false d10 and s9 Never had a initial one on one therapy so s10 therapist Stating all 3 kids have anxiety because of me.
GAL also stated I initiate W on every drop off. I said How when I have verbally and email GAL We need a police station and drop off. When I been the one asking for help.
Another thing GAL says kids are being told what to say I can go on.
So now I am not just dealing with W also GAL and of course OW.
Gal also stated I basically use kids to take care of me. Like wow. And every proof I have in writing GAL is not accepting
Everything my lawyer has recommended GAL have rejected I even Ask lawyer why is everything you filed GAL has came back saying Rejection.
My lawyer has truly tried, I kinda understand why lawyer said I can't No more cause now I am calling GAL lawyer.
I have dates that GAL went to kids school twice, once to my home GAL was angry at me why did I call cps last time and filed. I remember GAL said you going to regret it.
As I stated to GAL is my job to protect them GAL those kids lie alot And manipulate you.
In fact s10 told me this weekend GAL brought him a Christmas gift Like wow. Remember GAL and W live in same town, GAL daughter goes to s10 School. GAL is a Mexican advocate and also OW and W
W requested a Spanish GAL when there was going be a pro bono GAL W lawyer rejected and at the time in my county am in GAL is the only Spanish Gal.
Also my kids don't speak Spanish so why not go with an American GAL.
I go to meet in GAL office, I walk in they in conversation about Trump And immigrant law and very personal to me. I can go on that I seen so many Red flags.
Now GAL twist everything around. Anything I responded was Well you initiated, I of course say How and GAL will go on to Whatever W said.
This became a he said she said game.
God knows I have avoided everything from staying in car not looking To just not even talking. Even when W monster is because I initiated in GAL eyes.
Here I am doing whatever it takes. I ask for any of ya help to be able to Hire a lawyer who is going to fight like hell. Because I will be requesting a gal For my case a 2nd GAL to see this. I know my gut is telling me what I already Knew. Gal and W are friends so I had no chance. And apparently is my word Against GAL the only thing I have is GAL stating s10 therapist as d10 and s9 And twisting all emails I have sent her. I will be fighting till I can't.
I am being blamed for all kids anxiety and behavior and yeah my kids take care Of me because am sick. Wtf remember D10 honor roles never missed a day, student council S9 never miss a day A,b and obe C and in student council both in sports No behavior problems in school or out of school in fact everyone Around us and church speak very highly of them
But ask W, they are horrible kids, who doesn't respect her and yell and curse At her and disrespectful to OW, and W family and I can go on.
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Marina, Wow. Unbelievable. This must be so incredibly difficult and scary for you. I’m sorry for the situation you are in. I echo, Peacetoday, just take a moment to breathe, trust, and have faith. If you can find free legal counsel, please do seek it.
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
Marina, sister, you are carrying a heavy cross. You have to pick up your cross, but it's going to be heavy. You need to ask God every hour to help you carry it.
I am thinking of you a lot. I wasn't able to go to the LBGT center yet because of my own crosses the last two days but I will go in the next couple of days and ask about resources in your state.
There is something really weird about the situation of putting kids with the new girlfriend. Hamburg has been writing about getting a restraining order against his kids even meeting the OM, but in your case the court actually places the kids with OW?! Unless you are leaving something out of the story, I feel like they are not taking that part seriously because you are all women. It might make sense if W was living alone but I have never heard of a court doing that when the spouse is living with affair partner, unless there is some danger to the kids.
I know it won't be enough for you to wait for your kids to be old enough to choose. But whatever cross you have to bear, I know God will be walking with you through the furnace -- read that part of the Book of Daniel, with the furnace. It may give you some peace.
Marina, I want to tell you not to write anything down anymore in e-mails to OW and to learn to be silent. Be like Christ with Pilate. It's clear you are writing something that is being misinterpreted. On these boards you, like me, tend to write a lot. I am like that when I talk too -- I say too much. I think you must have said too much to GAL. This is being used against you in court. Don't write anything down anymore except to make arrangements for handing off kids. Get yourself a journal and start writing in there, get out all your thoughts before you see any GAL or anyone else. Out in the world, people don't understand MLC. They think we must have done something really bad for our spouse to hate us so much.
My spouse hates me so much that he has convinced the godfather of my kids to pay for his D lawyer and to pay him every month a loan against what he will get from forcing me to sell the house. And the friend believes it, though anyone with two eyes could see that something is wrong. The world will misinterpret always, esp with MLC, so give them less to misinterpret.
I am off to church so that's all I can write for now. I know how lonely you feel; I have just been crying out to God about the same thing for myself. I will pray for both of us.
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I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
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