It seemed I was somewhat... and I stress "somewhat"... at peace with my situation, moreso just living my life and not worrying about anything else. In a way I guess I was just distracted but I really do think the feeling will be carrying over. At least I hope. We did talk about my H a bit but it was in a productive way (not distracting from our vacation).
This was how I turned a corner. Distraction by something fun. It doesn't take the pain away, it's not denial. It's just the fact that you can simultaneously live your life while processing your grief. This is great.
Originally Posted by TJT
My friend's friend actually proposed I take a picture with her H as if it was a guy I was with, but A) I don't want to be fake about things and portray something that's not true, like me moving on/having fun with another guy, and B) I don't want to do things just for a reaction out of my H (trying to make him jealous and want me back) because we know that probably wouldn't work anyway and would only be to satisfy that 15 minutes of vengeance.
Good on you. This is perfect - you shouldn't be making any fake news or try to push yourself into your H's mind. Your photos that your friend posted were organic and natural - that's fine. But anything in an attempt to solicit a reaction is inauthentic and will only cause problems. This will certainly backfire.
Originally Posted by TJT
.. or maybe he was just like "Ugh.. I regret everything. I want to go home to my W." Of course I'm going to go with the latter...
Not yet. Don't do this. He isn't there, don't psyche yourself out to pretend that he is. He was likely curious, but NOT in a way that will change his mind right now. (remember: right NOW. The future is undetermined)
I'm so glad you had fun and it pushed you into a positive mentality. Just be careful thinking your H viewing your story "means" something. Right now it doesn't. Remember that. Not now. Maybe later. Right now you only need to concern yourself with the fact that you had fun and you want to figure out how to go on more awesome vacations!!
