I Was a Jerk (Part 1)

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Waiting for the W to initiate R talk again, doubt I will make it through the weekend before D-prep comes up, including telling the kids, who gets the house, custody plan etc.

W:"H, bla bla bla tell the kids bla bla bla"
H:"W, I think it is best to tell the kids after we have a written parenting plan that we both agree about. Have you done any research on what would be the best for our kids considering their ages?"


in my case, X wanted the house. I did not. I agreed to move out of house once we had a 50/50 parenting plan in place.


365/2 = 182 days a year

1) week on week off works when the kids are older
We have exchanges Friday afternoon. IE the kids are ending the week with Mother and it is now fathers week.

2) We also have a "Dinner Visit" Is was on Tuesdays. Kids get off school and come to my house during her week, then go back at 830p. Not to many days in a row that the kids go without seeing the other parent.

This also worked really well for the work week. I could put longer work days in on tuesday/Friday one week, and longer days Mon/Wed/Thurs the next week. I would lean toward this if I were you. DO NOT MAKE THIS THE FIRST SUGGESTION.

There are other standard arrangements you can look at.

Always with you on Mon/Tues With W on Wed/Thur alternate the F/S/S 5/2 split.


Exceptions to normal:

Xmas Day/ Xmas eve (maybe longer period if you want to travel the see grandparents)
Thanksgiving

Birthdays (Kids/parents)
Fathersday/Mothersday