The Clitoris

[MJontheMend]

I would suggest getting a book on the subject, but I'll share my experience which may differ from other HD women.

This might sound naive but do you get erections and can actually feel it beginning to enlarging? Do these erections happen spontaneously during the day like they do with us guys? If they do, does this trigger your brain to feel turned on or is it the reverse case that your brain drives feelings the in your genitals?

I would be very rare for me to encounter something in the course of a typical day that would make me feel instantly aroused in the way I assume men do (of course this might change if codpieces come back into fashion(LOL)) .

If I did encounter something arousing, I wouldn't experience it as blood flow to my clitoris, though that might be going on.It would be more of a generalized feeling of warmth and tingling. If I allowed myself to think about the arousing event, develop it into a fantasy in my mind, then I would feel more aroused. For example, if I saw a muscular construction worker with his shirt off on the street, I would probably just think "yum" and feel a slight tingle which would promptly disappear. At this stage of my life,I am unable to develop mental fantasies that star anyone but my husband, but if I wasn't so pathetically monogamous, when I had some free time later, I might start thinking more about the construction worker and his muscular arms and what we might do together. This would cause me to become much more aroused and I would have more of a sense of the feeling of heat and "tingling" being concentrated in my genital area, but still I wouldn't experience the sensation as being concentrated in my clitoris. I would need pretty direct clitoral stimulation in order to concentrate the sensation to that area and then achieve orgasm.

So, I guess I'm saying that at least for me, the brain is a quite important component of the arousal process. The best way to explain it is that I have to tell myself a little "story" about what is going to happen in order to find myself in a fully aroused state. This is probably why romance novels are so popular with women and porn movies with lame plot lines are not.

On the other hand, I could start from zero arousal and quickly become fully aroused, if for instance my husband snuck up behind me and started fondling me. This might be because my husband doing this is a favorite "story" that I've told myself many times.

Even not having enough sex doesn't cause me to spend my day in a state of arousal. The feeling of sexual deprivation for me is more like not getting enough vitamins or perhaps more like being totally lacking in one essential vitamin. I become listless, crabby and depressed.

how you get turned on though to the point of orgasm and the afterglow

Given that I'm in a state of arousal, in order to orgasm through clitoral stimulation, I need a steady rhythm with breaks. Like I'm being marched up the mountain, with a few quick breaks so that I don't become over stimulated. The clitoris has all the nerve endings that the penis has but concentrated in a smaller area and is therefore very, very sensitive, there is a fine line between pleasure and pain.

To me that is what orgasm feels like-being marched up a mountain of pleasure until I reach the peak and orgasm is like jumping off the mountain or in the case of multiple orgasm bungee-jumping off the mountain. Some orgasms are more "tight" , the mountain peak is higher and you practically run up the mountain, others orgasms are "broader", the mountain isn't so high and you have more time to take in the scenery as you climb. The afterglow is like after you jumped off the mountain you land in some nice warm water and the waves rock up your body. Then you slap your husband on the ass and say "Good job" and go to sleep (just kiddin').