Self-compassion is what I am exercising right now. The old me would be beating myself up for the 'failures', but I know that I took serious account of my flaws and life circumstances and did the best I could do with the hand I was dealt. I could've done better, but I can't change the past.
Self-compassion is my biggest goal right now. I so understand the thoughts and feelings you have posted M. I have spent too much time since this started walking down the tunnel of "if only" as I know that there are things my H and I could have done early on to change this outcome if I had only known what he was really going through as opposed to what I thought he was going through. But I didn't so I just did the best I could with the information that I had. Regardless, I was always 100% committed to our marriage, 100% honest and 100% loyal. So, looking back, I have to be okay with the idea that what seemed like the right thing was possibly the wrong thing. And I say "possibly" because it is very possible that even if I had known the truth, we might still have ended up in this place. I like to think we wouldn't have but then again, I will never know. So I have to forgive myself and let it go. I am getting there and you are too. (((HUGS)))
Originally Posted by Joseph9
It will just remember it is much easier for a women to find a man in the dating world than it is for a man. It doesn’t mean she has found the right man or a good man but there are no shortages of men looking for sex.
Really? I always thought it was the other way around. Not the men looking for sex part but the finding a man to date part. I had always thought that because of sheer numbers, it would be much easier for a man to find another woman than vice versa.
