I agree with DV in this. XW is currently a bit of an emotional mess, but that doesn't mean she always will be. She has a lot to work through, and I do think there is some projecting going on of her own insecurities.
Also, what ovrrnbw said - she has been running, but now she has a journey to go on to find herself again. She may be able to do that while with you, and may not. But your approach and how you handled everything was great.
You're being very conscious of how you can make this smoother without compromising your strength. You are giving a little, because you are coming from a place where you have the strength to give. But you aren't giving so much that you're losing yourself.
Sorry to hear about the bump, but you're doing awesome and shouldn't have any regrets as to how you have been proceeding.
