WW claims ended A...where to go from here?

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I've told her how much I want an intimate relationship with her...surely it's obvious the efforts I was making..but you cant force someone..

I read some of your old stuff too. It's not her you actually want, it's the person she used to be. You want an intimate relationship, just not with her really.

She wants you to do all these things for her while not giving you what you need. This is a relationship, both sides must contribute and often that means doing things we'd rather not do.

I don't think it's worth it...I do love her.....right now i feel like the 5000 lb of bricks of the relationship are piled on my back.....

The person who cares the least is in the driver's seat. Over a year here, and you haven't detached. Stick around this time, tell your story some more, work on yourself, hear some more advice.

I don't want to stay in this marriage for merely finances

You may not have told her this, but now you need to SHOW her this. So far, you've shown her otherwise. Sounds like you need a serious dose of GAL. I'd make myself busy 2-3 nights a week if I were you so you can enjoy your life and prepare for a life without her. Then maybe she'll feel what it's like to not have you around.

I do still feel there's a shred of interest in her in saving the marriage...thoughts?

She hasn't filed for D, right? I'd say this is the case.