and at the same time she wants me to partner with her to help her achieve financial freedom and not rely on her 9-5 job
Let me get this straight, she's telling you she wants out of the M unless you make more money so she can quit her job? Does that sound like a valid reason to try and stay married to you?
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...I understand that she wants to be free of the daily grind...
Don't we all? I've been working as an architect for 34 years now. I HATE the daily commute, hate it with a passion. I would absolutely love to stay home and work on art all day. But hey, I have bills to pay so I come to work. WELCOME TO LIFE.
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every time I try to compromise and offer my commitment to her desired financial goals in exchange for us going to counselling she does her best to avoid the idea of counselling...this is baffling to me...what could it hurt at this point?
That's a huge red flag that she's two feet out the door.
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we have amazing trips together...more than I can begin to count.....
So you are in dire financial straits, but you travel so often you can't even count the trips? Those two thoughts seem to be at odds!
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I do still feel there's a shred of interest in her in saving the marriage...thoughts?
Honestly it doesn't sound like it. She's checked out. She will offer up targets, and if you hit them she will just throw more targets up. You need to quit worrying about how you can make her happy and focus on yourself. If you feel you are falling short of your goals then work on that. But DON'T do it because you want her approval. Do it for YOU.
