Try to get a good sleep for tomorrow, and yes be clear minded and emotionally stable.
This result is not what you were hoping for, no doubt about that. Now, work on accepting it. This doesn’t mean you agree, or like it, or surrendered, you just emotional accept it. This has happened, fear of this will disappear, now you can more reason out a solution or path.
Find the strength to accept things you cannot change and the strength to fight for things you can change. And the wisdom to know which is applicable.
When this process was started it was to keep children together. That is achieved. The proposed location of where the kids live is not what you were hoping for. Is that something you are wanting to fight for? You want to achieve?
I want to ask / clarify something. The GAL has recommended that kids live with W. If you accept, then I am guessing you have visiting rights and such, but she is financially responsible, and is primarily responsible for their care and education (getting them to school and so on).
If you do not accept this all goes before the courts, costs lots of money, and according to L probably ends up the same result.
If you drop this, no court. What about agreement? Where do kids live? Is it back to W takes one and you get the others - again?
Knowing when to step back and regroup is valuable. I think you are facing one of those times.
I am guessing you are willing to fight to keep kids together (you have this part) and want them with you. When battling keep your eye on the result and what scorecard or rules the judges / scorekeepers use.
I do not know all the details, however agreeing to the GAL may be the best option. Keeps kids together, and visits. W has to be responsible and can then fail. You need to let her do what she will do. When faced with all the parental jobs, she may change her mind and quicker than you think.
Marina, your lawyer knows the legal process, the rules and guidelines, your details, and the most likely outcome. You are paying them for their expert advice. Ensure you consider it well before dismissing it.
Best of luck tomorrow. Praying and thinking about you.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
