It is interesting how you see your excuses to choose to not end limbo. Your answers to - “So why have I not?”
I see your responses as your reasons to choose limbo. Same statements different viewpoint.
For what it is worth, I fully support your position. You long ago explained how this makes sense financially and his money could most definitely be spent better on kids than OW or other addictions.
I have always thought of you as an amazing person - a keen intellect, heart felt wisdom, and a humour that is twisted just the right amount. It is no surprise you know you could extract yourself at any time and realize the benifits of not.
To me it looks like your limbo is reserved to him agreeing to the divorce, everything else is living forward. There really is a nothingness associated with it, isn’t there. Kind of cool, after all the stress that was endured.
Take care.
Oh btw, my own epic failure of a marriage - ya not use to that at all.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
