Marina, I don't understand what is going on here. I am sorry if I am missing something, but if this were about a husband and a wife, I don't imagine any lawyer ever telling you to surrender your kids to the husband's desire to be full-time father, especially if the husband were known to be abusive to the children! And vice versa for the husband if the wife were an unfit parent.
Am I missing something about this story? Isn't W an unfit parent?
Because it seems to me that your lawyer is not your advocate and you should get a better lawyer. You don't care about assets or expect her to support you. You just want your kids. Why aren't you fighting for that? W is not fit, she is in MLC and is terrible to them. It's not about kissing their booboos, though that is great that you do that. She is out of her mind and has been abusive to them! The trios come back to you from seeing her and are outright depressed.
Why does your lawyer want you to sacrifice them to her just to keep them together?!
In a heterosexual marriage, if one partner left the other and immediately moved in with the affair partner, it would not go like this. A friend of mine who is a dad got FULL custody of his kids when his MLC wife did that -- she showed up pregnant with another man's child to court, and that was the beginning of the end for her. And I live in a no-fault state.
Why would it be so different for you? It makes no sense. Unless it's that your lawyer is not advocating for your rights because it is a lesbian marriage.
Is your lawyer well-versed in the rights of same-sex couples? Do you have an LBGT center near you that you can go and ask for help?
I thought you said that W is abusive to them, monsters, etc?
Why would you ever surrender your children to someone like that? Surrender to not being able to change her does not mean surrendering your kids to an unhealthy household. You are the more fit parent. W is weaponizing the children. I know I may be missing some of the story and I know you don't have money, etc., but I want to encourage you to be confident and bold in knowing that you are a wonderful parent and that the kids should be with you more. Fight for it. If you lose, I understand you can't control everything.But why not give it a go?
Last edited by Gerda; 01/11/1901:07 AM.
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