Surrendering to grace...

[kiro]

Yail, I'll just say one thing in response to your last post: Don't be too harsh on yourself. It is good to discover what you could have done better, change your behavior going forward, and forgive yourself for the past. You can even decide to apologize for specific mistakes you have done. But don't try to imagine how she could have behaved if you had done this or done that. WASs have their own issues and can walk away even if their S did everything right...

Steve, re-monogamy, I really like what AS said on your Bezos thread: "I, (name), take you (name), to be my lawfully wedded (wife/husband), ... to love and to cherish; from this day forward until I don't feel like it anymore." This is what my WW and many others do. They are monogamous until they want to be with someone else.

Re-MLC: My understanding is that there are stages that each one goes through during their life, and there is a necessary transition between each stage. What happens in midlife is that the people who have not fully completed previous stages fall into a crisis and relive their unresolved issues. So someone who still has issues from childhood or from adolescence will act as a child or as an adolescent until they resolve their issues and achieve the emotional maturity that they should have completed at the end of their childhood and/or an adolescence years. And that is exactly my W.