D - Looking back I wish I would have filed for D as soon as my now XW moved out of the house. For me the pain was too great, I was in dis-belief, and I wasn't strong enough at the time. IMO no matter how you spin it all LBS's are plan B. Very few can completely 100% walk in the opposite direction and start a brand new life while technically still married. I believe you are experiencing that as you now try to date. Women do have a good radar when it comes to newly divorced men, they can smell it from a mile away. I still get the question from time to time and while my X has been gone for almost 2 years my D has not even been finalized for a month. As the others have said...if your ready your ready and if it is truly about being completely 100% free then do what you think is in your best interests.
I do not enjoy paying my X child support every month however it is not as bad as what I thought it would be once you process the emotional side of things.
