But she's calmly and resolutely selling the house and she accepted my lowball settlement offer with no hesitation. So I tell myself, people here say 9 months is a short amount of time. So she might sell the house anyway but maybe she'll someday think about me and wonder how I'm doing.
A) I have no doubt she will in the future think about you and wonder. She probably is now as well. But that doesn't mean she's willing to change anything right now. But you were her husband - that's significant. There's no way she will move on in her life and from this point forward never think of you. You shared something important.
B) I do think that the WAS does fully need to feel the absence of pressure. Selling the house and getting a divorce to us feels like really assertive decisions that show the S does not care about us. But I think a lot of the time it's just that they need to feel the freedom of no attachments so they can breathe and think clearly again.
When I was depressed in college I felt like everything in my life was smothering me/pressure. Once I was able to find room to breathe without the pushes and prods from academics/roommates/family I started feeling so much better and stronger. I could tackle my life at that point and be proactive. Before that I couldn't get out of my own way. But my depession was situational - not anything deep or chronic. So this may not apply.
