Thank you for your feedback. You say patience and Atleast a year but I don’t have that time. He filed and we goto court in February for pre trial. The house is going to be sold and we will be divorced within a few months. Won’t it be too late at that point? It’s been 7 months and he hasn’t changed. 3 1/2 weeks til court I’m scared I’m not going to be a success story.
Divorce is not the end of it. There have been many couples who didn't reconcile until after divorce. A lot of the situations here end in D because the LBS has been largely ineffective at removing pressure from the WAS. If you can well and truly remove the pressure then they'll put the D on the back burner, but what usually happens is the LBS will follow some of the DB'ing rules but not others (in particular, temp checking) and even the smallest pressure is derailing their efforts. After D the LBS almost always says "well that's it, there's no hope now" and gives up, and well and truly does finally drop the rope and remove all pressure. Sometimes THAT is what it takes for the WAS to finally see what they've lost. It doesn't always work out that way, but sometimes it does. So even D is not a reason to give up hope, unless you're done and don't want to hang onto hope anymore, that's up to each of us individually.
