I'll tell you what. When you start doing GALs and 180s for yourself and not your S, you really turn a corner. At first I dieted and exercised, went out with friends, etc. all with an eye on how my XW reacted. I've taken it to a different level now. It's much deeper and has a better chance at sticking. I don't have full on NGS, but I have some traits. I'm working hard on not being so defensive, thinking about my wants and needs, and eliminating covert contracts. I've set hard goals that I'm sticking to. They include volunteering at least 2 times/month, doing daily prayer and SOAP, keeping to a harder exercise routine, calling at least one friend or family member/day (I had convinced myself that I wasn't a phone person). I've surrounded myself with good male role models--which is breaking me of being a procrastinator. Alpha males don't need their wives to make them lists. I keep a schedule/calendar now. If something needs to get done, I do it. I'm working on being a better cook, but I have some work there. I never considered myself a handy man, but in the last few weeks I've done a few things that I would have hired somebody to do or would have procrastinated in doing. I really like the direction I'm headed. I have a ways to go, but I've come a long ways in a short time.
