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[Sokaku]

I'd make the meeting on Saturday brief.

Thank you for your input and thoughts OVR. Saturday is not going to be a leisurely morning hang out or me pining about our situation. I have AL & too many things to do.

I'm quoting this because you've already agreed to meet her again? If you asked her to meet for no reason, would she do that? Probably not, right? So why are you doing that for her? She snaps her fingers and boom, you're there!

Actually she would agree to meet for sure. But I haven't and won't be reaching out to her or asking to so it's a moot point. She wanted to meet last Sunday, I said I'm busy, she txt asking to meet this Saturday, I ignored her txt. W txt me again to see if I got previous txt. If I ignore or say I'm busy again, it will come a cross as being childish & sullen. At this point due to financial factors I need to be happy/friendly when I see her, but I'm not reaching out to meet up or go out.

Maybe you can just ask her what she wants via text/email as you have pressing business Saturday. It is Saturday after all, the most fun day of the week.

Absolutely! Going for a group ride & then meeting some friends later on. On what she wants to talk about, I had already refused to have relationship conversation last time we were out (due to alcohol consumption). I did agree to be open to talking to her about moving forward during the day.

Do you normally talk like this? It sounds like weirdo talk to me.

This was IC suggestion hence why putting it out here for input.

If she wants separation or divorce, delaying it or standing in her way is going to make her want it more. If you remove yourself from her path, maybe she will wonder if you were ever the problem - or at least as big a problem as she thought.

So don't agree to ever meet with W and run away from any conversation but get out of her way if she wants to separate.
Struggling with the contradiction here?

I'm reading & learning a lot here. There's a lot to my story that hasn't been disclosed. Thank you for your patience.