So...pros and cons? Blow this thing up? Make her start to feel the heat? We’re all but divorced anyway.
And will you look forward to looking in the mirror 6 months after these actions? Will you be glad you had 15 minutes of relief? Because that is all it will be.
Just take your R status on FB and hide it. Just make it private, that's all. No announcement, no drama - just remove it.
You need a paradigm shift. I don't know what that is. You oscillate between the same two thoughts: your love and hate for her. Your love and hate for yourself. I'm not sure if that's what it is, but it's a cycling pattern.
Without getting into an Ayn Rand debate (because it always ends up bloody), I do think one of her major themes is pertinent here. That theme is:
If you are confronting a contradiction - check your premise. One of your assumptions is wrong.
