One thing I AM holding myself accountable for is that, understanding we all must go through transitions, I know I did not do enough to create the safe emotional space my W needed to go through (indeed, is going through) her transition.
Perhaps your H was looking for this from you as well?
For me, it's always a tough balance between recognizing W is responsible for her own happiness, and feeling badly I did not do enough to create the environment so she could navigate her way towards happiness within the M.
