I learned recently that book references are against DB policies. I hope you have found material to read that helps you combat the bad mouthing that your children's mother is/will engage in. I been there, done that.
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I wish you well during this.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712