Thank you for your feedback. You say patience and Atleast a year but I don’t have that time. He filed and we goto court in February for pre trial. The house is going to be sold and we will be divorced within a few months. Won’t it be too late at that point? It’s been 7 months and he hasn’t changed. 3 1/2 weeks til court I’m scared I’m not going to be a success story.
Getting a D doesn't mean you don't become a success story. Really, I think you have to remember and focus on that. Because we don't know what the future holds - you could still R down the road after D.
It's true, you may not, and that's a really tough pill to swallow. I'm trying to get the same pill down. Drinking lots of water.
But, I do think that the future being unwritten should be a source of hope, not a source of fear.
Did you ever play with Legos? I was just thinking about this. And you make some really cool house and barn. But then you want to make a battleship too. You have to tear down the house and barn to make the battleship. The creation of something new comes from something else falling apart.
You might have to let this M fall apart completely and legally in order for the next R to take root. Your H may not be able to move forward in his process unless he feels completely untethered. Maybe that will give him the "freedom" he needs to better himself, and work through his issues.
Find hope in the unknown. Don't look around at the destruction around you, try to look at what you can build with your new resources.
